This story is from another anger management workshop, where one speaker told this as a part of the exercise set by the person conducting the workshop.
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It is all in the manner of speech.
I prefer to say what I want to say or at least what I have to say. There is no hiding from it. Most of the people do the same thing. If they don't want to say something, they keep quiet. But not everyone is so. See the following example to know what I mean.
"Why did you do this?" I asked one resident doctor who had goofed up big time in patient management. Luckily we had been around and not allowed things to go wrong.
"But I did not do so" she said.
"But you did. People saw you do it" I said mildly. I have learned finally that anger harms me rather than the person who makes me angry. So now I try and not get angry.
"I did not do it intentionally. It might have just happened from me" she said.
"Ah!" I said. It looked like a case of someone using this person like a puppet. She probably could not help what happened. "But I don't think you did not know what you were doing. Would you not go to sleep in some corner of one of the wards during emergency duty, where no one could find you? You would even switch off your phone so that you would not be woken up."
'I did not sleep like that" she said indignantly. "My eyes might have shut on their own."
"And you lie to save yourself many times" I said. It troubled me saying all those things. But they were true complaints, and they caused trouble to patients and her coworkers.
"I don't lie" she said. "Some untruths might be slipping out of my mouth."
I gave up. "OK. You can go to your work" I said.
"But when ..."
"See, I have managed not to get angry because I am working on it. But now my breaking point is approaching. Go before I get angry" I said.
She turned and started going. She stopped twice in the six feet distance to the door, turned around and opened her mouth to say something, saw the look on my face and finally went away. I congratulated myself on having maintained my cool, and also thanked her mentally for the training session in anger management she had not conducted on her own, but had somehow been instrumental in its occurrence.
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It is all in the manner of speech.
I prefer to say what I want to say or at least what I have to say. There is no hiding from it. Most of the people do the same thing. If they don't want to say something, they keep quiet. But not everyone is so. See the following example to know what I mean.
"Why did you do this?" I asked one resident doctor who had goofed up big time in patient management. Luckily we had been around and not allowed things to go wrong.
"But I did not do so" she said.
"But you did. People saw you do it" I said mildly. I have learned finally that anger harms me rather than the person who makes me angry. So now I try and not get angry.
"I did not do it intentionally. It might have just happened from me" she said.
"Ah!" I said. It looked like a case of someone using this person like a puppet. She probably could not help what happened. "But I don't think you did not know what you were doing. Would you not go to sleep in some corner of one of the wards during emergency duty, where no one could find you? You would even switch off your phone so that you would not be woken up."
'I did not sleep like that" she said indignantly. "My eyes might have shut on their own."
"And you lie to save yourself many times" I said. It troubled me saying all those things. But they were true complaints, and they caused trouble to patients and her coworkers.
"I don't lie" she said. "Some untruths might be slipping out of my mouth."
I gave up. "OK. You can go to your work" I said.
"But when ..."
"See, I have managed not to get angry because I am working on it. But now my breaking point is approaching. Go before I get angry" I said.
She turned and started going. She stopped twice in the six feet distance to the door, turned around and opened her mouth to say something, saw the look on my face and finally went away. I congratulated myself on having maintained my cool, and also thanked her mentally for the training session in anger management she had not conducted on her own, but had somehow been instrumental in its occurrence.
